Every tyrant or villain through history is infamous because of their behaviours. But those behaviours arose out of a heart darkened by some past experience or an upbringing that was less than desirable. That is why murder suicides are so dire. The answers as to why the killer did what they did, or from what past experiences there fatalistic behaviour arose will never be fully known. Our thing is an unconscious position of our heart, which is connected to our thoughts, which is connected to our behaviours. The heart bone’s connected to the thought bone, the thought bone’s connected to the behaviour bone. The behaviour bone’s connected to the life bone.
So what do we think about others? What do they do around us that gets in the way of our relationship with them? This is where judgement arises. And this is why instead of judging we need to connect what a person does with what they are thinking, regressing to what their heart feels, regressing back to how this came to be. And the most important thing to remember is that you have a thing too. Other people have their things and you have your thing. That is why we must love the sinner and hate the sin. Remember the scripture about a log in your own eye, speck in theirs. Well that’s very easy to clarify: your thing = log, their thing = speck.
If you can help people with their thing do it, but you gotta tell them about your thing first so you can come alongside them and not over the top. This is how testimony works. So we all have a thing. Sometimes the best way to deal with that thing is to combine your thing with someone else’s thing and deal with them together. Place yourself on the same level as the one you are trying to help. In fact, place yourself lower. This can promote two important tools in dealing with our heart issues, accountability and fellowship. When we have darkness in our heart, our fleshly response is to isolate ourselves. Retract from society and any potential sources of help. The enemy plays a big part in this also. Opening up about our thing to someone brings healing power. It brings light to the dark places of our heart and starts to bring new perspective. Having someone elses input also brings extra perspective. We start to realise that this thing of ours isn’t the big bad monster we thought it was. Soon enough, wounds get examined, diagnosed, treated and then healed. God gave us the analogy of medicine to reveal that the structured process that heals the body reflects the structured process that heals the soul. You can see a healed body through its activity and function. You can see a healed spirit through its activity and function. This is a life full of fruit.
So we must constantly be thinking about our judgements on other people. We must always be hosing them down and remembering that we are no better. This will grow that compassionate mercy muscle within you and help you become more forgiving. If you can place yourself below those you need to forgive and concentrate on your thing and not theirs, your human enemies won’t seem to be all that nasty, rather wounded and volatile. And when we can forgive completely, our prayers have more power, not to mention our souls having more peace....